I’m terrible at playing. I’m literally the worst at pretend play. Whenever Owen asks, “Mom, will you play with me?” I have to admit, I always slightly cringe and hesitantly respond, “Sure.” I just don’t like to it. I’m not very imaginative and find play boring.
This makes me sound like the worst mom. It’s actually hard for me to admit it, but here it is world, “I don’t like to play.” Yikes.
Am I The Worst Mom?
My husband, on the other hand, is great at play. And he enjoys it. He’s imaginative, creative, and patient – exactly what my boys love when it comes to playing. That’s how my husband shows his love. Yes, he’s caring, supportive, nurturing, and all things amazing, but he’s especially good at playing. The boys love it. They soak it up like a sponge soaks up water.
At first, when I realized how terrible I was at play and how much I disliked it (and how much Ian enjoyed it), I thought I was the worst mom. How could I be a good mom and dislike playing? Will my kids grow up hating me because I said, “I don’t want to play with your trucks.”?
My Love Looks Different
But as I’ve seen my kids grow into little or, as Owen likes to say BIG boys, I’ve also seen myself grow as a mom. I’ve accepted that the way I show love is very different from Ian. It’s not any worse or any better, it’s just different. I show love through tickle fests. I show love through big, long hugs. I should love through laughter. I show love by asking them about their days. I show love through joking around and being silly. I show love through active listening.
It’s taken some time to accept this demonstration of love is 100% equal to Ian’s ability to play and have fun with the kids. I’m no less of mom because my love looks different.
While I will probably never be good at playing, I still think I’m a pretty damn good mom.
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